Assalamu'alaikum ya Ukht,
Astaghrafirullah, it is indeed a confused world we r living in. This is just an example when the "good" is viewed as "bad".... and the "bad" is deem "good".... there's many more such wrong perceptions existing now. InsyaAllah, we & our family will be protected from making bad judgements and decisions .... Ameen.
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http://www.thestar.com/article/236893
It's also a confusing time, she suggests. Hookups and promiscuity are so ubiquitous they no longer qualify as being "bad."
Indeed, it's the good girl who has become "bad" today, she explains.
Girls now believe they have to be sexually available and strut their stuff to be accepted. No longer rebelling against dictated behaviour, they're doing what's expected of them, trying to please men and to conform to the expectations of society, (including older women) Shalit writes. The bad girl has, in effect, become the "good" girl.
"They have this ideology that they have to be pleasing. Look at all these studies about young girls performing oral sex because they're trying to please the guy," she says. "And when these young women wear very little clothing, they're making the men around them very happy.
"And yet, at the same time, we have this misconception that the so-called `good girl,' the modest girl, is the people pleaser.
"That's why I wanted to write this book – to say we misunderstand. Because, in fact, the moment a girl covers up, all of a sudden, she's put on the defensive. She's no longer pleasing. And the message we have to send young women is that it's not their job to please other people."
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With the release of her new book, she's set up girlsgonemild.com
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For now, Shalit says, "we need the good girls to come out of the closet."
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Girls Gone Mild has just arrived on bookshelves. Her previous book, A Return to Modesty, was praised by Salon, The Wall Street Journal and Newsweek, which called her "a prodigy at cracking the codes of culture." Playboy, on the other hand, put it under the heading, A Man's Worst Nightmare.
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I havent seen this book yet ... InsyaAllah will try to find it.
Have You ??
~ "A return to Modesty" ; the picture a bit indecent to me to put up here
JazakAllah khair...
